Spring 2018 Fundraiser
Our Winter 2018 fundraiser was a success, thanks to all who donated. We reached our goal of $205 and purchased the Retro-Cade console and LED Projector
This spring we are looking to raise funds, $425, to help a family in need attend our 2018 summer camp. The Spectrum Insights camp is geared to teens and young adults with Autism, PDD, ADHD and mild learning disabilities.
At present we have raised $220!!
To donate or find more information Please visit the link below:
Send a student to Camp
Friday April 6
Dad joke Face off is moved from May 4th to April 6.
Face off with a list of Dad Jokes and try to make your opponent laugh. Prizes for winners. Otherwise,Just more socializing, gaming , retro console, hanging out....oh...and our EPIC POT LUCK!
No student goes home hungry...ever!
May 4th we will be celebrating....
Summer Camp Update
Boys and Girls ages 12-17
9am to 4pm - Early Drop off available
Two camps are running July 16 to August 10
Team John 1-5 ratio
The art of conversation
Previously I wrote an article on "Valuing Your Students Opinions".
One of the issues on the flip side is helping my students better express their opinions and ensure they are heard. Equally important is demonstrating we hear what the other person is saying, if not, conversations become one sided. Worse, people get upset over a difference in values and more than likely to get entrenched in their views, at this point the conversation is no longer productive as neither party is listening to the other.
The following works best with and Autism coach as each step/suggestion should be demonstrated then practiced. The skills below may not come naturally to those on the Spectrum and even many "neurotypicals" radically fail when it comes to effective conversation skills.
We are focusing on making people feel comfortable, following the social rules that make us likeable and observing reactions. I also have tips at the end of the article for larger conversations where the topic is hot and may cause emotions to rise. You can learn to ensure the other person listens to you with a few simple tricks.
Lets begin with Small Talk.
Small talk is a way of getting to know someone, to find out what you have in common. This may lead to larger more interesting conversations about topics you are both interested in and the beginning of friendship!
Think of small talk as an interview, a way of getting to know someone to ultimately determine if they are worth getting to know further.
There is a rule about getting more attention, we need to give attention to get it. It may seem a bit anti intuitive but it works by increasing our likeability. Showing interest in others makes them feel good and they will feel as though you care. So small talk is also about showing interest in another person and making them feel comfortable. Be interesting by showing interest!
PAY ATTENTION to their mood, body language and social cues. We want to avoid the dreaded monologue where we talk about ourselves or personal interests.
If during the during the conversation, you find the person is not able to be reflective in return or show interest in you, consider the interview over. You can assign this person to a category of not interesting in this moment. Remember that people are doing the same to you, looking for shared interests. We also should take notes from Mark Bowden, Biology, race, the way we dress and age also play a large part in who we choose to talk to or who chooses to talk to us. In a room full of people, we have unconscious filters about who we gravitate to, race, culture and biology play a part in this. We tend to lean towards what is familiar. a person wearing a shirt w/ your favorite band, same age and sex is an obvious choice of who you may gravitate to. We may filter out people older, younger, different style of dress, race or even cultural cues. Mark Bowden says it's worth taking the risk to meet new people as you do may discover wonderful things. Personal Bias may prevent us from discovering your next best friend!
Be curious and ask questions. We are looking at showing interest and getting a conversation started
Reflective listening and follow questions:
Observing how others react and adjusting our behavior to ensure they stay comfortable
April 6th SISG